General Advice

On this page, you can get some general advice on how to not only deal with bullies, but also if you are a bystander or the bully.
Please note that this website is not a substitute for professional help.

For victims of bullying:

Before you read anything else, make sure you've told a trusted adult about the situation. After you do that, read the below text.

• Note that bullying is generally considered bullying after three offenses. If the person or group has offended you three or more times, talk to a trusted adult.
  If the offenses exceed 6 times, take it to a cousenselor. If the person or group hasn't offended you more than three times, wait to see if they stop.
• If you are getting bullied at school, talk to a counselor or teacher. Most schools have counselors, and they might be your best resource for the situation.
• If you are getting bullied at work, talk to your manager or a counselor (see our "Counseling Resources" page).
• If you are getting bullied outside of your workplace or school, talk to a counselor or family member (see our "Counseling Resources" page).

For bystanders:

A lot of times, when a person is getting bullied, they aren't sure how to stand up for themselves. The people who watch the victim get bullied are called bystanders. If you are a bystander, you should speak up for the victim and have their back. Read the text below on how bystanders should react.

• If you notice that the person is not comfortable with standing up for themself, don't speak up then and there, but rather tell a teacher or counselor.
• In an office setting, it would be better to speak up then and there, or tell the manager.

For bullies:

If you realize your actions may be hurting someone, find them and apologize ASAP. If you aren't comfortable with actually talking to the person being bullied, talk to a counselor or trusted adult on how you can fix the situation.

• Even though you may not be comfortable explaining your actions, remember that it's for the best.