On this page, you can get some general advice on how to not only deal with bullies, but also if you are a bystander or the bully.
Please note that this website is not a substitute for professional help.
For victims of bullying:
Before you read anything else, make sure you've told a trusted adult about the situation. After you do that, read the below text.
- Note that bullying is generally considered bullying after three offenses. If the person or group has offended you three or more times, talk to a trusted adult.
If the offenses exceed 6 times, take it to a cousenselor. If the person or group hasn't offended you more than three times, wait to see if they stop.
- If you are getting bullied at school, talk to a counselor or teacher. Most schools have counselors, and they might be your best resource for the situation.
- If you are getting bullied at work, talk to your manager or a counselor (see our "Counseling Resources" page).
- If you are getting bullied outside of your workplace or school, talk to a counselor or family member (see our "Counseling Resources" page).
A lot of times, when a person is getting bullied, they aren't sure how to stand up for themselves. The people who watch the victim get bullied are called bystanders. If you are a bystander, you should speak up for the victim and have their back. Read the text below on how bystanders should react.
- If you notice that the person is not comfortable with standing up for themself, don't speak up then and there, but rather tell a teacher or counselor.
- In an office setting, it would be better to speak up then and there, or tell the manager.
If you realize your actions may be hurting someone, find them and apologize ASAP. If you aren't comfortable with actually talking to the person being bullied, talk to a counselor or trusted adult on how you can fix the situation.
- Even though you may not be comfortable explaining your actions, remember that it's for the best.